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Originally Posted by musinglizzy
Here's the topic again....
I was talking about my son going to therapy on Thursday during my session. There is a man in the same building as my T that I would like my son to see, since he shows an interest in going to therapy. This isn't just for nothing, there are a few things where I think he could benefit. But my T said something on Thursday that really made me think.
When she was talking about this man (whom I have talked to several times and really like), she said he was such a fun guy (I can hear that on the other side of the wall), but he has a very "paternal" way about him. I slammed on the brakes.
One of my son's issues is that his dad (my husband) is not very involved with him. He could use a man to talk to. However, that comment made me nervous.
I am very attached to my T. To the point of having a hard time leaving her, even if it IS the right thing. So I think about my son and wonder how therapy would be for him. Can/do kids tend to get attached to their therapists also? I am not looking for a paternal therapist to help my son get what his dad doesn't give him. Because I don't want my son hurt, with the therapeutic relationship, boundaries, etc. Then I wondered if perhaps therapists are different with kids.... you know, cuz they're young and impressionable and cute....
Just want to know if anyone's kids are in therapy, has the relationship/boundaries hurt them in any way?
Thanks!
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I'm guessing they can attach, too. I'm assuming you'd meet with the T, too, at least briefly, before your son started going solo. You could discuss your concerns about him getting attached and see if the T has dealt with that before, what he does to avoid it, etc. Another thought is--does this T specialize in kids/teens? If not, might be best to try to find one who does, just because they'd be used to dealing with kids who might be particularly impressionable.
The thing is, there could be a risk of his becoming attached to any male authority figure, whether a T or someone else. I became attached to a teacher in high school, so it doesn't have to be a T. At least a T is trained to deal with attachment, unlike a teacher (mine handled some stuff very badly with me).