Being abandoned as a child is an extremely hurtful situtation!! Even if parents are physically present and they abandon you emotionally, the pain is still deep. Getting over abandonment is extremely hard, even if it happened 35 years ago. You are always waiting and wondering when you are going to be abandoned again and by whom. You are distrustful that anyone is actually going to be there for you. As a result, future relationships are difficult and it feels impossible to trust people. Especially when it was a parent that hurt you!!