What did you answer your mother when she asked you to move back? I think if a T can be a mother figure for some time as you work these issues through perhaps youīll find that internalized support? I know itīs important a T donīt just get you dependent but also helpes you get independent of him/her before therapy ends. Just a thought, as a T can help you internalize different things that you need and looked for if done in a proper way.
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Originally Posted by Bill3
My mother often stated that she wanted me to move back to the place of origin.
For many years I did not really understand what happened in my family of origin, so I was not looking for a mother figure. I began therapy two years ago. I am still developing an understanding.
At times I yearn to have a new mother figure, but mostly I am working on accepting the finality of it: I did not have a caring mother figure then and I am not going to have one now. At these latter times I mourn the loss and try to look inside myself for ways to develop the internalized support that should already have been developed from a mother's care.
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