I"m sorry you are going through this, I have been divorced also and it was pretty awful, even though it was very amicable. My ex husband had mental health issues also so us together was kind of a nightmare. Have you sought counseling? Even if it doesn't bring you back together, it can be helpful for you alone to cope with the process, I went for two years (!) after my divorce just to kind of keep things in check. And I wasn't even diagnosed yet, I just knew myself well enough to know that something that stressful would send me spinning into using alcohol and drugs to cope, and wanted to avoid that.

I find it easier to live on my own in a way, I don't have to pretend to feel normal all of the time, and if I want to lay in bed and cry all day I can. That being said, you do need to have a support system as bleakgeek mentioned, so that kind of day doesn't end up being a downward spiral. When I was single, my sister was really good at checking in on me and supporting me when I needed it. I also think it's important to know your own "red flags" if you are going to live alone.

Be kind to yourself. Have a list of healthy coping options, and be sure to check in with your pdoc or a therapist regularly during the process. Hugs.