My boyfriend and I had a talk yesterday because I have wanted to talk to him more, particularly on the phone because I think it's a great way to get to know someone. He was all for it, but I also brought up how I feel like I like him more than he likes me. He doesn't initiate dates often, and I know that he would never ask to call me, even if he'd say yes when I ask. And in general, he doesn't say super flirty things very often and just doesn't seem to be as enthusiastic as me. My fears were confirmed when he said he probably doesn't like me as much as I like him.

He assured me that he is interested, but said he has a lot of social interaction with friends too, whereas I rarely see any friends, so rely on him for my social interaction. And he has shared many of his interests with me (lent me video games, books, etc), but I haven't really shared anything with him. In general I find it hard to open up, which he knows and even asked me to be more open because he wants to know the real me.

The problem is that it's really hurting me and causing anxiety that he's not feeling as strongly as me. He mentioned that it took him awhile to really feel crazy about his previous gf, and that he's somewhat cautious about emotional commitment. I'm hoping that if I talk to him and open up to him more, his feelings will "catch up" with mine. Though we also still don't joke around with each other very often so I'm also worried that we're somewhat incompatible. We are both very reserved, so we are both afraid to show our sense of humor I think.

Anyway, do you think at this point he shouldn't be so far behind in his feelings? I find myself thinking of him all the time and counting down the days until I can see him again, but he's more laid-back. He enjoys our time together, but it's not quite the same experience for him. How long would you wait for things to get better? Do you think they can?