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Originally Posted by popuri88
Ahh... you know, we grow up surrounded by romantic relationships, so we probably expect to fall in love a priori. While I do understand how you're feeling, it's hard to judge, maybe he truly doesn't live up to this logic?
This would give me feeling of people settling for me, which isn't really appealing, in my opinion. But, in the end, that's up to each person's expectations and how they deal with relationships. How long have you been together?
Also, you say that he's a lot more 'social' than you are. This can cause you great anxiety. Just out of curiosity, if the situation was the same but he was as outgoing as you would you feel less anxious?
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What do you mean by him not living up to the logic? Do you mean he's realistic and doesn't buy into the need to rush into things?
Yeah, I have worried about him settling for me, especially since we found each other through online dating and he basically had no luck on there aside from me. But he says he likes me and wants to make it work. I just don't know how optimistic he is about us-- it seems like he has doubts and doesn't think we have much chemistry (aside from the sexual). We met in May, so we've gone on dates 1-2 times per week since then.
The interesting thing is that I wouldn't say he is more outgoing than me. I think we are very similar. But I just don't have a lot of friends, at least not ones available to see me every week, and he does. I don't think him hanging out with his friends has bothered me, other than the fact that he sometimes has to juggle his free time between us.