So recently my husband has been asking for some new and different things in the bedroom - and I'm not quite sure what to make of them, or how to feel about it.

He likes me to slap him. Hard. I can tell how much he likes it because I can actually watch his pupils dilate when I hit him. I don't mind slapping him if that's what he likes. I don't really get anything out of it, but I like to make him happy, and I can tell he REALLY likes it. So whatever - if he likes me to be in that type of 'position of power' and slap him occasionally, I will do it to make him happy. It doesn't bother me, but it doesn't do anything for me either.

The thing I'm wanting advice about is the 'abusing' him part. The other day, midway through sex with me on top he asked me to: "abuse me, verbally too". I simply replied that I wouldn't know what to say and slapped him again.

So I'm asking for advice. What types of things could I say to him? I don't want to actually hurt his feelings, and I don't really feel comfortable with lying either... I don't really know what he wants or how to give it to him. Anyone have any experience with this kind of thing? Thanks!