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Old Sep 21, 2015, 06:05 PM
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Originally Posted by Norman DEE View Post
Okay so I'm gonna check in and then say what I think about all this.

Feeling pretty good. Was in therapy earlier, and my therapist commended me that I basically validated my own self without even noticing, saying that I already do it subconciously, and those are the fruits of DBT. Took a while but I got there. Getting better, slowly but surely.

Now, about all this that's happening, I think it might be better to create a General thread, not just for checking in. One general thread because for one, this is a check-in thread and we're supposed to say what we feel at the moment; derailing it with tons of posts about how we feel for each other might not be the place. So a general BPD thread might be better for that. I think we're all basically in the same spot. Dunno about you, but getting "hugs" isn't very validating, personally. It's as if you get a "like" on facebook, instead of actual feedback.

So to sum up, make a general.
Oh snap...I certainly feel called out.

No one said anything about "hugs." Or, rather, I didn't. And I don't think I saw anyone talk about how they felt about each other.

When I mentioned validation I meant that, when you post a thread saying, "Hey, I'm really struggling because of a, b, & c..." especially when you say "I'm having a hard time because I feel, in my offline life, that people are ignoring me (regardless of how rational that feeling is)" someone acknowledges you. What is the point of coming online to a support network when there isn't support? When I mentioned dancinglady, it was in reference to her recent post, which I'm sure the majority of the forum members read, since it correlated to that I had to say, and I also commented on it.

Maybe you're right about a general thread. Pretty sure the issue I've brought up would still occur there, however.