Maybe there's something to learn here? Why not want a man that's over the moon for you, instead of just filling a void?

It could develop, over time. Or, over time, you could have your answers about what choices you want to make.

Two years, post breakup, might seem long enough, however, it was an 8 year long relationship. I once dated someone off a broken engagement. He still wasn't over her, a couple years post finality. He kept up a guarded wall. And this might sound minor, but telling me his middle name was off limits. Guarded. Lacked a real emotional connection.