My first unforced sexual encounter was a positive one. I had sex with a long term boyfriend when I was 17. We had sex, it was alright, nothing mind blowing or anything like that. It didn't change my life any. The next week I caught him in bed with another woman. I was a little hurt, but what stuck out in my mind was that this guy had all the experience in the world, and he choose me to have sex with. He was nice, and patient, and gentle, and simply cared very much about not hurting me. That is what sticks out in my mind. Even though I have had sex with a couple of other people, one other guy and my husband, none of them were that careful and compassionate as he was.

Even though he had sex with an more experienced woman, he got what he deserved. The girl got pregnant that night. And he and she are married now, and have been for 20 years and have 5 children. It all worked out fine. Happy for him, happy for her, and happy for me, (that I didn't get pregnant and that I don't have 5 kids) The girl and I are on speaking terms still today, she has a child in the same grade as my child.

Sorry a short answer turned long. I'll shut up now.