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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
If your son doesn't have a strong relationship with his father, it might be really helpful for him to develop a secure attachment to a male T so that he can experience that kind of safe/secure relationship. I am wondering, though, if you have talked to your husband about his relationship with your son? Is he open to working on improving his relationship with his son? Is he in therapy? Have you considered father/son or family therapy? Unless there is a reason why your husband is unable to be a father, it seems it might be even more beneficial for your son to develop a relationship with his father. Having a parent who has little interest in your life and puts no effort into building a relationship with you can be incredibly damaging to a child. If there is any way to intervene there, it might be worth it.
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Yes. I have talked to him. Over and over and over again. I drug him to therapy with me for one session last year. He won't go to marriage counseling. I never knew my dad, so it hits me even harder that my son knows his, but has little relationship with him. There is no reason why he can't act like a good father. I swore I chose well. He was always amazing with other peoples' kids, including nieces/nephews. He is INSANELY close to his family, especially his dad. They are VERY tight knit. I get no answers out of my H, even when I ask him about his own relationship with his father, and why he wouldn't want that for his own son. I have done all I can (aside from divorce him). He's what brought me into therapy a year and a half ago.