From what you write, it doesn't seem like he handled the situation well. I don't like that he is blaming you. You are not the only person in the room. The 'relationship' is bringing something to the surface that needs to be talked through.

I am wondering something for anyone in the group to answer, if a T or a p-doc feels danger what should he/she do? I'm guessing one option is to refer the client to someone else but what if he/she doesn't want to do that as in winter's case?

I'm glad he hasn't just referred you to someone it does seem like he wants to work it out but I'm not sure he knows how...