((((((((((((( UCLA )))))))))))))

I understand where you are coming from. I see a lot of families like yours....have been told since childhood to "grin and bare it". To an extent, it can be good to do that at times, but for most of us, expressing what we feel in the proper way is very important to our emotional health.

I hope you can work to find your healthy way of expressing yoru boundaries and feelings without "showing" a different face. I know it's hard to unlearn a behavior but it is possible to unlearn one and learn new ones. I wish you well!

Hugsss
sabby