I know others here will disagree with me but, frankly speaking, what speaks to me in your post is that you want out. I think you have every reason to feel this way. More than anything, the issue of trust stand outs to me - especially when it comes to the emotional affairs. So too, you have every right to expect to be treated as an equal partner in this relationship. Do you feel you are settling? Sometimes we stay with what we know because it is less scary than the unknown.

A few questions, do you work? Do you have friend(s) to confide in? Are you able to get out with friends or do things that would exert some degree of independence?