Perfection doesn't exist, chasing that is a fools errand, especially within relationships, because the fundamental components are people, and people are flawed creatures.


There's a lyric for this particular situation by FOB:


"The best, way to make it through with hearts and wrists in tact, is to realize, two out of three ain't bad..."


I think adaptation is good if its what you actively choose, because the alternate is not a good option for you.


People evolve, and relationships do too, but I think we enter dangerous territory when we fool ourselves into believing its enough, or will somehow magically become enough some time in the future.


LF and the bf are standing on some solid ground though, because they've identified the areas in which the relationship is lacking and are actively trying to fill the gaps.


That is a healthy relationship, even if you should decide that you two weren't a good forever fit as a partnership.


Sometimes it comes down to compatibility, other times it comes down to working on it.


If I may ask, is there a viable reason he is not meeting these needs, has he never met them and is it an obtainable goal, for him to attempt to meet them?


The OP was kinda vague so I'm not exactly sure what we're discussing in detail.