I'm married and have two children still living at home. My wife and I both work. My wife makes about 2/3 what I make, but she works overtime almost everyday, and nearly every Saturday. We have three rooms that need cleaning (or at least straightening up) everyday, the kitchen, the living room, and the bathroom. We decided about two years ago that it wasn't fair that the same person (usually myself or my wife) got stuck doing the majority of the cleaning everyday. So, we created a monthly calendar. Each day has the three rooms on it with myself, my wife, and the two kids assigned to a different room, rotating everyday. With three rooms and four people, one person gets a day off every fourth day. It really works out well. Everyone is responsible for their own bedrooms and laundry. My wife and I share the cooking duties.

My wife works her fingers to the bone, and I respect all that she does to keep this family together and running smoothly. I'm sure the same goes for you. The idea of anything around the house being woman's work has long since passed. I hope I don't come on too strongly here, but unless the woman makes the choice to stay at home and take care of the house, then the respectful thing for the mate to do is to do their share around the home.

Just my $1.98, FWIW.

Take care,
bptoo

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