didn't get pregnant (thanks God), though still need to get std tested at the health center. I stopped talking to the guy and he's only contacted me a couple times by email. its been 8 days since I wrote him back. I'm thinking of writing him back and hoped to get some feedback.

I'm planning to let him know I haven't written back because of a couple reasons. First that I haven't written because I've been busy with school and didn't want to keep having to tell him no I couldn't get together. That said, I wouldn't mind getting together Saturday night. I'll let him know that I'm getting an iud for bc and still want to get tested for stds before having sex again, however the sex is just going to be sex for me. When it happens on date one, the day after I met some one it rarely leads to a relationship. Which speaking of, I don't want one right now. That I just want to date but since we already had sex I guess I can't take that off the table but we have to use a condom until I get the iud which won't be for a month. I don't want to worry about getting pregnant I have enough on my mind. I also want him to know I'm not closed to a relationship in the future, I just was not planning on one right now and don't want one because school is so hard for me and I need to put that first. I would feel bad all the time for treating him poorly because he wouldn't be a priority to me no matter how much I liked him. If we just date and go out every now and then, it takes the pressure off (relationships are stressful for me) and isn't serious.

I'm also not used to talking to a guy every day let alone multiple times a day and won't respond. I feel bad but I can't do that much closeness at this time. It pushes me further away because I don't respond to that level of communication. He really doesn't know me, I've been through a lot, I don't want to talk about it, and I'm used to being alone most of the time. I haven't dated anyone for 3 years. I like him, but he should really take time to get to know me before diving head first into anything. I hate to burst his bubble but it's just the reality. He says we are into the same things but he totally just assumed that, he didn't actually take the time to learn who I am or what I like. If it's just sex, that's fine, whatever. But as for a relationship, if that was the preview, I'm not ready for the movie to come out yet. I'm still getting to know him and I would like to take my time doing so.

What do you guys think, am I saying too much? How does it sound? Guys how would you take it if you got a message like that? Thanks for your replies and help with this.