Thanks for your reply. It was actually that the "sex would just be sex for me" meaning that it would just be for its own sake and not meaning anything. Isn't that what guys do all the time? Just have sex and it doesn't have any emotional connection? I don't want the emotional connection anymore. So if it happens then it is just going to be kind of a whatever approach and has no meaning to me.

As for giving lots of detail, it's a control thing. I think when I get together in person I'll tend to just go along with what he wants out of habit. Someone brought up a good point though that he might be doing those things because he thinks that is what I want. He really has no idea about me and who I am or what I want. I get that it isn't about me so much if it is a relationship, but this isn't one. I reserve the right to be selfish. Hence the specifics about what I want in regards to even contacting him again. How will he know what I want unless I tell him?