Thank you so much for asking this question. The issue we're having is that we're not connecting on an intellectual level or a sexual level. While I am a person with a very busy and multi-layered mind, he is a much simpler person, and this leads to us being unable to carry on few, if any meaningful conversations. I am a person who loves to talk and he would usually prefer sitting in silence. AND in my opinion sex has everything to do with the mind. As a friend said yesterday, "You're not turned on, you're not intrigued, you're not fascinated...". And this is exactly what it is. I love him very much and we are very close emotionally, very close friends, but it sort of ends there. It pains my heart to have to say all this because while I know it's true I just can't really imagine leaving him as our lives are very enmeshed and he would be devastated. I hope this explains things.