You don't sound like a whiney biatch at all.


You're asking the right questions and looking at all the angles, as well as possible outcomes of committing to a life time together.


I agree, it really doesn't sound like something he can really change, so now its time to strategize.


If you choose him over the opportunity for finding someone more stimulating, (a better match if you will), then you two will have to discuss and decide on a game plan to keep you more than just emotionally engaged.


I think a therapist would be very beneficial for helping the 2 of you figuring out these things.

Because even if you don't step out of the relationship to fulfill these needs, you may grow resentful in time, feeling as if you've settled for less than.