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Old Sep 23, 2015, 02:34 PM
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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0 View Post



LF, I cannot stress this enough...


Please try to untangle yourself from your dx.


Yes, during rough times we may need more of whatever it is we need, and yes, its important that our partners understand that and are up for it.


BUT, this dx doesn't automatically render you high maintenance, which means you don't have to resign yourself to settling for less than you deserve.


I also want to reiterate that you cannot stay with someone because you don't want to hurt them by leaving... That leads nowhere happy.


Not only do you inadvertently pity that person, but you also rob them of the chance of meeting someone who's better suited for them.


Now I am not saying you should break off the engagement, cut your losses and run, but I want you to think long and hard about why you choose to stay.


And if you think staying is the better option for you, then maybe its time to have a couples counselor intervene, maybe as part of premarital counseling.
Thank you soooo much. I am going to try to validate myself and untangle myself from my dx. I'll be thinking this one over... I really think therapy is going to be very beneficial for us. What a mess.