Many woman do not orgasm every time. We are all different. I find that I do not orgasm every time I have intercourse with my husband. It depends on the space I am in at the time. Yet I find sex very pleasurable regardless. The point is that for women it may not always be a requirement. We are all different in that regard. Love and communication are much more important for us, and it takes us more time to get excited. As a suggestion you might need to spend a lot more time in foreplay, before she is ready