A word on alanon. It's not just about loved ones who are currently abusing within their addiction. It deals with things on a grander scale - particularly events, issues, dysfunction, etc that were present leading up to the addiction. That is why it was recommended. You may in fact find some relief of your own. You may even have an 'a-ha' moment.

I am encouraged by your wish to seek help in your community. If you feel comfort in your church then that is a positive thing for you.