My soon to be ex is living on his boat. We are trying to separate our finances amicably, it is good to work out things - kind of like a manifesto for us parting. My kids were just tired of us fighting, us being friendly helps them a lot. Positive outcomes - I have moments when I feel like a silly teenager again which is nice. There is no more anger ringing through the house. It is lonely but not as lonely as living right next to someone who doesn't want to be there. I am not sure you can control this, I send you a hug and advise you to ask and say yes please when anyone offers you comfort.