Thank you Webgoji for responding.

I was the victim of marital rape with my first husband, and this is nothing like that.

I finally got him to sit down and discuss it last night. He is a little naive, and thought that because my subconscious was consenting that I was consenting. He understands now, and said that he won't do it again without asking me before I fall asleep if it's ok. I told him that it is not ok at the present time at all, and he promised to stop. I believe him, but if it happens again I will take action.

I do think that it was making his sex preoccupation worse. My therapist needs to figure out what my trigger was so that I can get him into therapy. We thought that it was the marital rape, but dealing with that issue did not help my problem.

Thank you for showing concern. It's really nice to know that there are people in this world who still care about others. I promise that if he does it again without my consent, I will take action.

I am wondering though. How is it that my subconscious responds to him with no pain? Has anyone else had their subconscious participate during sleep sex?