I've had 5 Ts including my current one. When I began therapy I didn't know I was supposed to have any kind of relationship with my T. I had no idea what therapy was about. Then I started developing feelings for my T and the rest is history! I always wanted the relationship to be more than it was, and each T told me about unmet needs from the past. I was frustrated with the therapeutic relationship because the Ts couldn't love me the way I wanted them to.

It seemed like my pattern was going to continue with my current T, but something changed. My relationship with her became satisfying because she gave me more of what I wanted and didn't make me crave love from her like my other Ts did. So the relationship is more of what I want and need, but not at all what I expected! It is much more real than I expected. I know I am more than my Ts job, that she truly cares about me. It's still a working relationship with boundaries, but it is deeply satisfying to me.