I don't know about dredging up anger. My T has told me that anger is often a secondary emotion and at least, for me, that tends to be true. If I'm angry, the question I have to ask myself is "Am I angry or am I hurt?" "Am I angry or am I frustrated at a situation?" Usually I'm experiencing another emotion and I'm using the anger to "deal" with it or to avoid it. Anger was a permitted emotion in my house and it got me the response I needed from my parents who pretended my depression did not exist. I realized later that I wasn't angry with my parents... I was hurt and that I could deal with that hurt differently.

That's not to say anger doesn't really happen, but if you find yourself having to dredge it up... maybe it's another emotion you have work through?

Sorry if that makes no sense. I have a toddler.