Well I am in therapy (I happen to like therapy as I learn a lot) when the therapist decides to keep the appointment! I swear, therapists should have to pay the client, or at least get the same consequences as clients, whenever they cancel in less than 24 hours... Had he cancelled at least 24 hours in advance, I would have gotten the message and not drove 30 mins there and 30 mins back all for nothing. Whatever, different thread - goes on the therapy boards. Rant over. (Except that I don't think I'll be seeing him again... My turn to cancel).

As for your comments (which thank you by the way I do appreciate all replies), I guess the benefit is that he really likes me (really seems to a lot anyways) and therefore I get to contribute to another person's happiness. What's in it for me? Well, I get to know someone new and learn about them and their world perspectives, philosophies, etc. And I get out of my loner bubble every now and then when we go out. If I have the say, we won't go out more than once a week. I guess the sex thing, I'm trying to be more like a man about it - not have it mean anything, so there is that. I guess if the sex starts getting good, that could be something that is in it for me alone. Just because I am doing these things, doesn't mean I am leading him on. I once dated a guy 10 months and he dumped me. Was it leading me on? Maybe, who knows, cause I thought I wanted to marry him and start a family with him (this being when I was 20 years old). Due to the seeming immaturity of this guy, maybe his mentality is something like mine was when I was 20 even though he is 31. I mean, hell, I used to consider what it would be like to marry someone, see how their last name fits with my first (still do this out of habit), and imagine what it would be like to have kids with the person, what the kids would be like, etc... I pretty much size up a person about these things even on the first date. However, doesn't mean I actually want to marry the person or anything. Have to take time to get to know them, know where their heart is, and what their values are. Just cause I'm a little turned off to the guy at the moment, who says I shouldn't at least give him a chance if he seems to like me so much. However, their are the intuitive things that if you see right away (clingy, or whatever), you have to deeply consider if you would be okay with this. Cause the person is not going to change no matter how much you think you can change them over time. So there is a little bit of that 'listen to your gut instinct' thing going on - and my gut instinct says no way would I marry this guy. So should I just dump him right now? Is that really the only reason we date a person these days? Or can there be alternatives?