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Originally Posted by Dern
Hello, StillIntending. After reading most of your posts, to say you are in a difficult predicament is an understatement.
Do you regularly exercise? Mindfulness meditation may be helpful (look online).
Is college in your future? If so, make sure the institution has mental health support.
What is the age of emancipation in your state? Once you are considered an adult, you may be able to get help from the social services in the county of your residence.
I am assuming without knowing you want professional help. You are a person of value. Be your best advocate. Find a way to get the help you need.
I wish you well.
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Oh, heh, you read all of those? Whoops. There's a lot of rambles in those.
I try to excersice, but I still can't drive myself to the gym, so I have to rely on my mother, who is constantly too busy to go... But I try. And I haven't done too much mindfulness meditation, although I do like to listen to music and think about only the notes as a way to shut my brain up.
It looks like we're considering a gap year for me, so I have two years until either going off to college or going to a community college here. I tend to hope I go away for college. I think the distance from my parents would be helpful.
I recently turned 17, and I will be an adult at 18. As soon as that happens I suppose I can at least look into professional help, although cost will be an issue at that point.
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Originally Posted by waterknob1234
Wow, all of you have a lot going on. I suppose the best thing is to be there for your friend and hopefully he can be there for you. Mutually support each other and lean on each other. Also, do you have other friends you can reach out to or that can reach out to you? It is good to have more than one friend to lean on. Also, we have to understand that people can love us and still let us down sometimes because we are all human.
Also, is there a trusted adult you can confide in for help?
Depression is a beast that can feel overbearing, and it takes a battle to overcome. Sometimes you get tired of fighting the battle but you can't give up.
Are there activities or hobbies you can get involved in? I know it helps me to get out and do stuff. Problem is, depression can make it hard to motivate yourself to do things.
I know it is hard when you are leaning on someone for help and that person is so burdened by someone else's trouble that they can't be that helpful to you. Best of wishes. You are in my thoughts and prayers.   |
There is no one else. That's part of the reason I rely so much on him... he is the only person in my life who has ever been this close to me. I knew that it would make me vulnerable, and obviously, it has. I still wouldn't trade it though. There's no adult that I can go to, unfortunately.
I try to "have a life" outside of depression, but yeah, it's really hard. Sometimes I think that if I ever had a life, depression took that away from me, too. But I try.
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Originally Posted by francisR
hi StillIntending
What might work best is for your friend to help the girlfriend get the best possible medication and therapy so that her depression can improve.
Perhaps continuing to make allowances and bearing with him till things improve with the girlfriend would be the best way forward.
All that can be done is to keep praying that his health will hold out to doing what he has to. You are right in saying that at the end of the day the battle with depression has to be fought by ourselves, but others can help.
There is Nami the organization for the mentally ill and they run peer to peer support groups which would give you extra support at this time and new friends. You can Google them and contact them to see if they run this service in your area. I hope and pray everything improves for you soon. Take care. God bless and best wishes from your friend Francis
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Both of my friends are on medication. I'm the only one whose depression is currently still secret, actually. I think you're right about what to do, in fact, I'm taking steps to do that. It just still hurts to.
Thank you everyone. This is (obviously) a very hard time for me, and knowing that people care is very nice.
