That's so true that wounds heal but the scars stay longer.
Fuzzybear, like you I have trouble trusting people. I went through emotional abuse from several family members over many years. They think I should forgive and forget, sweep it under the carpet but, I can' t.
I have tried several times but, I can't forget what happened. They refuse to accept any responsibility and I don't have contact with them.
So when it comes to meeting new people, I can't let myself trust them. I've got to be in control.