How about a man who wants his wife to participate in some s&m activities, such as he wants her to spank him, etc.
And the wife is not willing to participate. If she was to participate it would be solely bet. her husband and herself.
Husband says he has this pressing need for s&m stuff, he can't understand why his wife is not willing to experiment, yet she abhors these kinds of activites.
Husband says he has this pressing need and if she is unwilling to give it to him he may have to seek it elsewhere. Wife feels bad that she can't give it to him, yet she doesn't want to say it's ok for him to go elsewhere for it.
What's your take on this? BTW, they are married with young children, divorce is not on anyone's mind.