I won't minimize that depression will play a role in being able to be motivated to change. I know that's in no small part an issue that affects your ability to lose weight but it's definitely not something you want to just give in to as it sounds like you have. That you know your reaction to depression is binge eating is a start by the fact that you have the realization that it's a problem. Not easy but something that needs to change in your thinking, somehow.

Although there are health nuts out there that actually really love exercise from the beginning the fact is there are many others that, like you, hate it but in spite of that, you have to place importance on becoming healthy at any cost not just for the simple reason of finding a mate, no especially not something like that but for your own health, well being and even to help with your depression. Even though becoming healthy physically may not be a "cure" for your depression and problems, it will definitely give you a leg up on getting to where you need to be in so many ways, including mentally. What I'm saying is, it would be a good thing to really take to heart that becoming healthy isn't just something that will help you look better but should be part of your mental health "therapy"

I'm not claiming any of this is easy but what I see here in your responses is that of resignation to being what you are, overweight and depressed. Don't accept it as if there is no better way, no way to become healthy physically and mentally, emotionally too.