Orgasm is not always that important to a woman, or at least not this woman. I just am not that interested in it. The times that things feel good and is pleasurable is nice. It is pleasant, not mind blowing or anything. It just happens to be that I am just not that interested in orgasm. If it happens great, if not, great. For me the ride there is half the fun. The finial destination is not so important.

Orgasm doesn't always happen easily in some cases either. Does your wife take anti depressants. That can be a real sex drive killer. Pressure to "O" also hinder things. It is like performance anxiety. Past history can change things as well. Or maybe it is just something that takes extra work. Toys are a good way to increase likelihood of orgasm, and often raise confidence levels enough to encourage things to happen with out toys or enough to spark interest levels and increase frequency of love making.

Hopefully something will help turn things around and give you both what you are looking for. Chances are if you are not satisfied neither is she.