You are lucky to have a great wife. My fiance I believe is undiagnosed bipolar, and is a problem drinker as well. We
have lived together for 6 months now. From what he says and from what his sister has told me his dad was abusive and maybe bipolar. He says his girlfriends in the past 12 years since his divorce were unstable, some bipolar. I was fairly stable-had same husband, job, and church for over 20 years-then my ex left me. My fiance knows I'm a good catch. His ups and downs are wearing me out. I'm pretty patient, but his verbal rages seem to come out of nowhere. Last night I was wanting to look for flea meds for the dog in boxes in our shed (just moved) and he went off screaming how I would mess up the boxes if I looked though them. Then he went out to the shed and began throwing the boxes on the hard floor (breakble stuff). I'm only allowed to do what he wants when he says I can or he goes crazy saying I'm obstinate, and that I won't accept male authority.
Then he left for 3 hours to go to a bar to get away from me.
He's trying the fish oil remedy for mood swings, though he resented me "diagnosing" him. I think a major Lithium dose may be needed. I love this man, but am getting real tired.