I didn't think about the emotional need part......but now that you said that, I realized thats a big part of it when my bf isn't well enough for sex.

I've really started noticing when we're watching tv, just being next to each other, I've started noticing the way he strokes my hand or my arm....I've started feeling that emotional connection there too, not just in his kiss or in his passion.......and that has helped a lot with the feeling rejected with the sex issue. I brought up a really similar issue a million threads ago here, about it started off hot and heavy and then tapered quite a bit. What people suggested in that thread was that our relationship was about much more than sex, so I started noticing the subtleties.....and somehow its worked. I'm really starting to get that its not about me when it comes to sex. But in my situation, I know why.....my bf has asthma and a job that makes him crazy. I think if I didn't know why, it would be a lot harder to deal with.