Sounds like you're just an object to him. He wants a girlfriend, any girlfriend, probably more to do with himself and something he lacks than actually wanting to live complimentary as a whole person with another whole person. He's just kinda dominating this thing and you love the attention and don't want to lose it, but are also uncomfortable. You are afraid to say it because you don't want to lose what you have and probably due to your inexperience as well... but here you are saying things like "clingy", "freaks me out", "too much too soon"... This doesn't sound like a mutual tango. It sounds like it's all about him, and you have no boundaries nor are you willing to create and enforce any.

This relationship will be on his terms and the day you finally say "STOP. Let me breathe", he will dump you. This is why you have to be discerning on your dates and be able to express yourself.

Plus- you gave him an option to use a condom? You met him shortly before at a bar... This is disastrously foolish! SMFH... Why, because guys like it raw? Guys like it raw in committed relationships with trusted girlfriends who are on the pill, not hook-ups. Don't mess around without condoms... sheesh...