Does Borderline Personality Disorder always need to have the fear of abandonment component. I don't want to be alone but I have been alone most of my life but I put up with people that treat me with disrespect and cruelty and always go back for more just because they are all I have. It is preferable to being alone with my demons. But I don't go to extremes to get someone to stay with me. I'm just trying to figure this out. In process of looking for a good fit for therapist/psychiatrist. Easier said than done especially when you live in corn country.