Hello everyone.
I would just like to thank you all for your words of support and advice. There is a lot of advice there and I would particularly like to thank "nowheretorun" for some very good points. As you say what is on the surface often hides the personal termoil beneth and communications have to be worked on. I know that this is an area we have to do something about.

Today is a better day though. He will not talk to me at all at the moment but I suppose that I just am not going to get strung out about it. I have decided to go and have a wee chat with someone and take it from there. At the end of the day I don't want my marriage to break up but we cannot continue being destructive to one another.

Well it is a beautiful day so I shall go and enjoy the sunshine.

Many thanks, Purplestar