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Originally Posted by ScientiaOmnisEst
See, I tale issue with is kind of advice. Am I really just supposed to accept my inferiority, to be happy being am idiot so others can be brilliant? Or perhaps take pride in my uselessness? I know competing is futile but...I can't seem to figure out how to approach it in a way that doesn't lead to constant self-deprecation.
Usually it's not the material things that concern me, but the talemt and gifts they represent. Not necessarily the prestige or status (though yeah, I'm a narcissistic notch who would love to be honored and respected... for something worth doing. I though recently how often people have told me how smart I am, based on little more than how I talk. Perhaps I'm articulate, but I don't say anything profound. So such compliments don't mean anything to me. Maybe I'm too negative.
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I'm sorry you took issue with it; I was just trying to help. I think you should accept who you are, yes. If you can't do all the things that this other woman can do, then maybe it's sad or unfair but I don't think the comparison is useful at all -- it only gets you down. Just because you're not perfect doesn't mean you don't have the right to live. Take pride in overcoming your own challenges. Everyone has their own talents and gifts, but you have to work to find them sometimes. Or maybe they're not as readily visible. But you DO have them -- everyone does.
So yes, I think you are too negative. Try changing that way of thinking. It's easier said than done of course -- I developed some bad thought patterns over decades of low self-esteem and no confidence. I "failed" at CBT because I just couldn't convince myself to change those negative attitudes. Still, they tell me it's possible
