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Originally Posted by Favorite Jeans
Some of the focus on imaginary hugs is just our silliness, I think. But some of it is that the author seems to undermine her own point about the healing power of touch by saying that the brain doesn't distinguish between imaginary and actual hugs. It's kind of an eye roll moment for many of us whose therapists offer cheap-sounding platitudes in response to our out of session distress, especially with regard to difficulties self-soothing. "I'm not actually there for you in any real way when you're struggling, you cannot call, email or get an extra appointment but you can always imagine a hug."
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Yes this is what had me confused, it spoke about how "Gretchen" benefited massively in a very healing and theraputic way from a hug but the T now offers imaginary hugs only? I didn't get it. I told my T once I wished for a hug she asked me if I ever hugged myself. I rolled my eyes in a big way.
I know how to self soothe as I have done it all my life, it's nice when someone else can soothe you too. Is your T asking you about self soothing?