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Old Sep 26, 2015, 10:03 PM
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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel View Post
Sorry for another post.

So I now have a problem with my group T Last week we were going over coping skills. He started with the ones for SI. He asked me if I use them because I'm the only one who SI's in the group. First one was squeezing ice. I told him that doesn't work for me. Then he asked about drawing on myself with a red marker. I said I never tried it and don't want to. He asked about snapping a rubber back. I said it doesn't work. He ask about screaming into a pillow. I said I'm not the screaming type and we have thin walls. Then he tells me I'm being resistant?!?! Because I don't use those 4 coping skills? And it was embarrassing because he said it in front of the group. I told him I do have coping skills. He was like "what?" I listed out a bunch: crying, sleeping, painting, shower, playing with my dogs, etc.

But I'm still hurt. The rest of the session I spent holding back tears and trying to not run out the door. So I emailed him telling him he hurt me and embarrassed me. I told him I won't return to group unless their was a resolution: if I misinterpreted his meaning of "resistance" then he needs to clarify, or if I didn't misinterpret then he needs to apologize. I emailed him 3 days ago, but haven't heard back from him. My T told me to call him because maybe he doesn't want to respond via email. She also suggested a one on one with him so he can learn what upsets me and also to try to resolve this.

I just have a feeling with this lack of reply that he doesn't want me to be in the group anymore. I think I ruined the "energy" of the group.

Would being called resistant bother you?
Yes, being called resistant would bother me.

However, I know that one of your goals of therapy is to figure out how to and then work through complex, emotional and sometimes conflictional interpersonal relationships.

This would be a event to work very hard at not getting angry/ defensive or shut down on.

My opinion only. Not right or wrong, just a thought.
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