It sounds to me like you weren't really validating your own feelings in the beginning and maybe you were expecting, on some level, for him to do what you wanted even though you hadn't communicated what that was? At least that's how I perceived it from the OP. If I'm wrong, I'm sorry.

I've done that same thing before & didn't even realize I was doing it. Then, I felt that"if he loved me, he would know me well enough to know what I wanted" kind of thing. My current BF has helped me greatly to 1) understand how men think in general....(surprise! They're not good mind readers. Sometimes you have to spell it out to them & then they deliver quite well) & 2) how to communicate with him & others better & more clearly..... well, most of the time...I'm still working on this,Lol.