I try to talk them through when they happen. If I can't talk about it, I will write it out and give it to t to read, then we talk About it. Just a few sessions ago, I asked t to be a but more directive and "pushy" if I got stuck during session. Then when it happened the next session, I realized I got mad at her. I wrote about it afterward and then we talked about it last session. We'll see where we stand on it next session.

I've found, for me, most of my ruptures happen because I get triggered. I react the way I would have to the abusive people in my life, and I interpret t's words or actions as I would their's. If we can talk about the ruptures, I tend to get a better picture of where they originate and why. I've also had really awesome t's who responded really well to me bringing up my feelings about therapy or what's happening in the room. None of them refused to see me anymore or blew the reactions out of proportion. They have all been willing to hear what i'm saying and to work on it. I know that is not the case with all t relationships though...