|
It's mostly an illusion, thinking everyone else has things any better figured out. People generally wish to present themselves as strong, or tough, or as perfectly as they can, to protect vulnerabilities from the general public. We all have some kind of mask that we wear in public in this way, some degree of hard candy shell (some harder than others), to protect our softer centers.
But the internal perspective of experience, all the insecurities etc., is something which we can mostly only see about ourselves; we can't see much of other people's. So we end up comparing that total version of ourselves including our insecurities and whatever else, with other people's presentations of themselves. It's always an unfair comparison.
__________________
“We use our minds not to discover facts but to hide them. One of things the screen hides most effectively is the body, our own body, by which I mean, the ins and outs of it, its interiors. Like a veil thrown over the skin to secure its modesty, the screen partially removes from the mind the inner states of the body, those that constitute the flow of life as it wanders in the journey of each day.”
— Antonio R. Damasio, “The Feeling of What Happens: Body and Emotion in the Making of Consciousness” (p.28)
|