Hi jclown. Welcome to Psych Central. Sorry you are conflicted about how and who to be in a relationship with. For me, finding common ground is more important than fetishes or passion. These things usually do not form the basis of a lasting relationship. The problem with playing with women's bellies is that it can get you involved in having a baby before you have established a solid relationship.

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