okay, so i have been dating my boyfriend for a little over 2 months now. Everything was going great up until the beginning of last month. Anyway i have noticed that my boyfriend always needs to see me. If my friends and i just want to hang out and do something fun he says stuff like "sick invite" or if i want to see them another day during the week he'll say "you just saw them, why do you have to see them again?". My boyfriend and I are two completely different people and he denies it. He is a VERY affectionate person. All he wants to do is kiss me like every 5 minutes and if i deny it cause im doing something he flips out. Me on the other hand, im not really the affectionate type or at least not in front of people. i will hold his hand when we are out with people, kiss him here and there, but he doesnt understand that sometimes its too much for me. he'll say " can you please be affectionate for me?" or "why cant you be affectionate?" i tell him all the time that im sorry im not the way you want me to be but if you "love" me like you say you do, i shouldnt have to change how i am. im not asking him to change, all i ask is that when we are out in public please dont make out with me infront of my family or friends and i dont want you to kiss me literally every 5 minutes. Whenever im telling him something pretty personal he tries kissing me right as im talking and i get mad cause he knows i dont like to open up to people and im trying for him. We have seen eachother EVERYDAY since the first time we hungout. Now we are starting to get into more arguments. He drove passed my house one night cause he thought i was doing something behind his back so he wanted to see if i was really home or not. I've done nothing wrong to him... never lied about where i go or who i hangout with...he on the other hand, his ex started problems with us and he never told me he went to her house to give her **** back or that she came to his job and started problems... he never told me a couple of nights ago that he messaged my bestfriend and started a problem with him... also he doesnt like when random guys add me on facebook but he can add some girl on snap chat cause she was nice. he told me he has to be my # 1 priority and my friends come after. he doesnt like that when something is upsetting my bestfriends, that i dont talk on the phone them but instead i talk to them face to face. he told me that my friends should talk to other people about their problems and now all my friends hate him. my friends hate how if im not comfortable with doing something my boyfriend wont stop asking me to do it. he hates hearing no, if i say no, there has to be a reason why if not he wont stop asking. Last night he started an argument over a kiss... i started crying in the car. i lost it. everything that i do is wrong to him and i just dont get it anymore. He is allowed to be on his phone but the second im on mine to answer my bestfriend... he loses it. tonight i asked for a night for myself and he keeps asking if after im done can he see me... i need help before i snap.
We have been getting into a lot of arguments lately. First it started at my best friends show. it was his last show and i brought him cause all my friends were going. He wasnt with me at all. the whole time he was outside talking with some girl while i sat by myself waiting for my friend to play. then after the show he sat next to the same girl and handed her his phone so she can added herself on his snap chat...yes i got pissed and his reason was "she was nice"... i got pissed because some guy added me on facebook and he flipped cause i accepted it. even though we went to school together. Second fight : He didnt believe me that i was tired and i wanted to sleep so he drove past my house 3 times... he said i thought you were doing something behind my back. I have done nothing wrong to him. i always told him who i was with and where i was going. him on the other hand, when his ex caused problems for us he never told me he went to her house to get his **** back and he never told me he messaged my bestfriend and started a problem with him... Third fight: he got pissed cause i was texting my best friend... yet he can be on his phone. after that he told me i should make him my #1 priority and my friends come after... Fourth fight: it was over a kiss... i kissed him outside when i got to his house and then i walked inside and made myself food since i didnt eat all day and i didnt get to eat at work and he tried to kiss me again i told him hold im making something quickly hes like seriously?! im like give me 2 seconds please im starving". we were on our way to my uncle's show and he turned around. he accused me of lying to him. he said i never gave him a kiss. hes like "all i wanted was a kiss i didnt see you all day". im like "i gave you a kiss when i saw you how many times must i kiss you in 2 mins?" he doesnt understand, i tell him all the time and even my friends know this... i dont like being smothered. yes a kiss here and there is fine but its every 5 mins with him and if i dont kiss him he flips out. the other night i was telling him something personal and as im talking hes trying to make out with me. i got upset cause he knows i dont open up and im trying for him. Also he doesnt like hearing no. He'll ask why i said no and if i dont give a reason he'll keep asking. if im not comfortable with doing something he tells me to get over it and do it for me... we have hung out everyday since we first hung out... if i make plans with my friends just to have a girl day or whatever hes always rushing me and wants me to leave so he can see me. if my friend and i are doing something fun he says " sick invite". None of my friends like him now cause of the way he talks to me and people ask why im with him and the thing is we are fine until he sees my friend texting me or i do something he doesnt like. everything i do is wrong to him... he hates that my friends dont talk to other people when something is upsetting them and he hates that i talk to them face to face when they're upset. he told me they should talk to someone else about their problems. tonight is the first night i might not see him and its because of hw. i told him i wanted to be by myself today and he says okay so later? i guess im gonna have to see him. can anyone help please?
Last edited by bluekoi; Sep 27, 2015 at 09:30 PM.
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