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Originally Posted by PetalxSnowfruit
I don't have social anxiety. I don't have problems starting up conversations with people, going out (by myself), etc etc. My problems arise when people try to get too close to me, too quickly. I like having my space, and when people pop that bubble it makes me anxious. For example: before my courses begin I like to sit by myself and read, or do extra course work. That's all I did in undergrad. Now that the building is smaller, I have one person who constantly wants to be near me, talk to me, text me (I unwillingly released this information for a project; regret), and I don't like it. We have similar interests (I only knew her for 2 days before she started the constant communication), but I feel overwhelmed by her presence and I don't know what to do about it. It makes me anxious when I go to classes that I used to really enjoy, because I don't want to see her. Partially because I ignore her messages which are usually her just complaining about the material, or making fun of my work ethic. Sometimes I even end up sitting in my car before class starts so I can avoid her.
Am I alone in this feeling?
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Whose turning a small classroom setting into a small hidden vehicle avoidance system setting?
Could project contact be about someones in sight seeing possible more unknown eye opening experiences.
You never knew someone else's personal family friend connective experiences.
Focusing projecting on someone else as problem can form protective blinders from seeing and ear coverings from hearing barring possibilities...
Maybe someone is attempting to lighten load...interest in a study buddy group or some personal connection further ahead in upper class or graduated passed on suggestions on structuring and pacing to lighten load pressure.
Internalizing feeling boxed in started physically externalizing sitting in penalty box. Whose penalizing whom where?
Words you write...Complaining...or commenting about large load.... class material...making fun....teasing or criticizing...of work ethic.
Laughter best medicine and work ethic can hide burning candles at both ends. So maybe both complaint and making fun is trying hear you laugh.
Write a note and face her handing over...sometimes I am so focused on work I don't always hear someone else so am I missing someone's insight could you share?
If you really want to stay in quiet class set start non-verbal traffic hand signal stretches.
Picture curtains blocking view reaching out straight front hands backs touching opening curtains and pushing even with sides showing and actions telling clearing path.
Yawning contagion is sight and sound and tension relaxing...others feel safe to take in more air clearing air from tension.
Clears people and clears pressure.