I was in a relationship with a woman for 2 1/2 years. I'm in a lesbian relationship, I am 48 and she is 55. From the beginning of our relationship I have been honest about needing consistent communication with issues that affect our relationship, such as what's going on with her ex (kid involved) so I know what to expect, aspects of our sexual relationship because it is ongoingly unsatisfying and her lack of follow through when she says she will do anything. Since 6 months into our relationship I had told her I need consistent communication, not only about issues regarding her child, but also in regards to how she feels, what bothers her and how I can do things differently so I can ensure that I am doing what I can for the relationship. I am bipolar type I but am stable, take my meds and attend therapy on a consistent basis. I work as hard as I can to maintain balance. This is why communication is so important. Consistency and routine help keep me inline. Throughout our whole relationship I have tried to do the right thing, communicate effectively and be open for suggestions to be the best I can in the relationship. It had gotten too much for me to bear as we were arguing all the time and the yelling was out of control. I couldn't bear the unhappiness and contstant disrespect and lack of motivation on her to work on our relationship. I ended the relationship and when we were getting our things from one another she told me that she thinks I made the wrong decision and told me I couldn't see her son, with whom I've developed a close bond. I taught him to ride a bike, coached his basketball for 2 years, and he comes to me when he wants questions answered when he knows his two other moms won't be completely open with him. I am at a loss. I won't go against her wishes but I feel that showed her true character, when I have done nothing but good to him and what is in his best interest. I feel like my heart has been ripped out and it showed me her true character. I am not free from fault in this relationship but I do feel I worked very hard, while she feels she did everything. We did attend counseling together a few times then she told me she should go alone because she has issues she needs to work out. Honestly I question whether or not she has followed through. My question is this...why do I feel so bad and like everything is my fault while she accepts no responsibility at all? Am I wrong for feeling like my needs are just as important as hers? Sorry this is so lengthy.