She sounds like a basketcase.

First off, you're dating one month and you offer her help like that? It seems you're a caretaker or want to be needed. She has trust issues. Of course she'll think you have some condition or will take advantage of her in some way. She has instinctively learned that good treatment comes at a terrible price, most likely from her childhood. But the fact that she wrote you off so quickly and definitively (and even lied- my opinion- about getting together with an ex in order to cut you out completely) tells to me that you may be better off without this unstable woman.

Second, you're looking for love in all the wrong places, not to be cliche. She has two kids from another man who she only separated with, did not divorce. That's trouble waiting to happen. I went on a date with this really nice girl who just separated from a husband but for some b/s reason couldn't "get the money to divorce him". Blah, blah. I went out with her only to kill the time, I had absolutely no intention of a second date. She was a decent girl, too. It's just situations like this end badly 90% of the time; I have more self-respect than to subject myself to that ****. And the kids, lol, you'd be the step-father figure while you still live with your parents. They will place expectations on you, you will get emotionally tied to them, then they will break your heart when they show loyalty to their bio-father who isn't as involved with them. The bio-father can be a nutcase, too, and manipulate the kids to sabotage your relationship with the woman. All in all, you saved yourself from huge drama. Not to mention, you still live at home, how can you take on the responsibility for a single mother and her two kids who in a couple years will be adolescents and most likely have emotional/mental problems?

Another thing. She is a coworker. And an unstable woman at that. You are best advised to pretend you and her did not date and go on about your business. Forget this ever happened. Because you do anything wrong and she can get you fired.

It seems you may want to ask a therapist why you are attracted to "high maintenance" situations like this. Just my two cents.

You know what works great for shy guys? Tinder, or OkCupid, or POF or those other million-and-one sites that are good for meeting girls. Many women are on those sites, and you can edit your message one million times to make it seem suave and like you have game. Try it.

Work relationships worked well for me until I met that one girl who was so *****ed up that she almost cost me my job. Then I understood "don't **** where you eat".