What a strange situation. I had maternal transference with my ex-T due to similarities to my mother and the therapeutic relationship of feeling cared for and seen. Most of the intense year was feeling like she didn't care, feeling like I didn't have support and wanting more and more from her. I wanted her to check on me, I wanted her to acknowledge how hard things were for me, I wanted her to not space sessions, etc. I guess my mind/body was trying to get what I never had from my mom.
Now, I have the opposite. New T. is very attentive, emails me, I've already cried in both sessions with her (about ex-T. of course) and definitely shows she cares. I wanted to show her picture of my daughter's wreck that happened a week ago and she sat by me which felt odd. All things ex-T. didn't do. Now that I have what I wanted from ex-T, it feels strange and it's the care/attention from older women that I have a hard time accepting. I want to put my wall up.
How bizarre that I'm finally receiving what I wanted and have a hard time accepting it. Have any of you had this experience switching T's?
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